Call me crazy but why don't you tell him that you're feeling a bit overwhelmed. Maybe?

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"Roll your windows down, the summer's nearly gone and only hours stand between you and the cold that's coming on"
-The Alternate Routes

Oh. Dear me. I left that part out. I've tried that. He's so touchy-feely, and I tell him every time he touches me that it's too much. He just seems to think that this is an area that I should compromise on...I don't. Make sense?

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"I took a deep breath and listened to the old bray of my heart. I am. I am. I am."
--Sylvia Plath

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Hmmm. Maybe he's just being himself...guys get like that when they like you
Maybe it feels worse than it is because you're not used to nice guys
But it's hard to tell unless I've met him...

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Creativity is essentially a lonely art. An even lonelier struggle. To some a blessing. To others a curse. It is in reality the ability to reach inside yourself and drag forth from your very soul an idea -Lou Dorfsman
I belong to my husband ~dwcumper

True. I am not used to nice guys, and it does freak me out. I feel like a child with this post, by the way. Haha.

I think it -is- how he is, and it scares me because I don't really like it. I just hate to throw him away because he is such a good guy.

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"I took a deep breath and listened to the old bray of my heart. I am. I am. I am."
--Sylvia Plath

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Dude... seriously, don't abandon a relationship this early in the game. He's probably behaving like this BECAUSE he doesn't know you. Men have this idea (provided by the likes of Cosmo magazine and Sex and the City) that what women really want is to be romanced, and for a man to commit to settling down and having babies. He doesn't know what kind of a woman you are yet and so he's just adhering to that stereotype. You need to sit him down and tell him to throw his media-references out of the window... tell him you don't need gifts. Tell him you've had problematic relationships in the past -- if he's a nice guy, he won't need details -- and that you'd like to take it slow. Say that it's not like you definitely won't have a future together, but you just want to take it one day at a time. When Leon and I started out, I was only two months free of my previous, absuvie and altogether disastrous relationship. I said on the very first night we were officially 'together', 'I want you to know I'm a bit fragile...this has to be slow.' I told him all the details of Chris' violence and things, because I'm that type of person... but you don't have to elaborate to him. But you can't dump him just because he guessed at where the goalposts were and happened to get it wrong! Lay them out for him.... a couple of times if need be. If he's still getting it wrong after that, then fine ...you're allowed to run like hell.

(also, some men are very, oddly, affectionate. Leon's one of them and sometimes even now I still have to go 'I need some space right now.' Either, he's being overly tactile because again, he thinks that's how he should behave, or because he thinks you'll appreciate it. Tell him you don't want it 24/7 and see what happens...?)

feel free to ignore this. I really hope you can give it a shot without it hitting the rocks already... from what I've gathered, you deserve some happiness

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(don't feel like a child!! silly.)

You do have to compromise somewhere... but not necessarily where he 'expects' you to.

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Blog: One Night Stanzas
Magazine: Read This Magazine
Store: Read This, Etsy!

That's what my mama said.

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"I took a deep breath and listened to the old bray of my heart. I am. I am. I am."
--Sylvia Plath

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I appreciate this and think you're key on. I suck at confronting people in person, so I shot him an email (yea, I know that's pussy, but whatev.). I hope the results are better than if I were to open my mouth and attempt at honesty. I'll let you know how it goes.

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"I took a deep breath and listened to the old bray of my heart. I am. I am. I am."
--Sylvia Plath

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well, coming from a touchy feely person herself..haha.

He sounds like a sweetheart. Sean kind of acts like how this guy acts towards you, and he's just trying to butter me up all the damn time.

I don't know. Doesn't sound like a cause for alarm. Just ride it out, no drama.

*shrugs*

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I hear
your voice
down the hall, through the window, above
all those trees, a light
it seems
& you are singing. What song
is that The words
are beautiful.

-LeRoi Jones